#recommendationwednesday The Financial Diet

This is an amazing Youtube channel, guys. So far, my experience of adulthood and being in my 20s is a scary and exhilarating one where mostly everything is new. I’m glad The Financial Diet exists cos at times it feels like it’s the only rope given to guide me, at least financially, through adulthood.

Definitely, definitely recommend. I picked up some good tips from it! Like having an emergency savings set aside that can at least carry you for 6 months (touch wood in case something happens) before spending on anything else. I’m still looking into how to invest my money so that it’ll “work for me” but I still need to do more research on that. Idk, the word ‘invest’ itself sounds so intimidating and capitalistic and somethingĀ not me haha. But we’ll see how things go šŸ™‚

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A lift encounter.Ā 

I had my most embarrassing work conversation to date on Friday, just after I knocked off work. 

I ended up being in the same lift with a POH (let’s call him S; to throw anyone working for the G off lol) and he started some small talk on our way down. This is nice of him I guess since he’s a very busy person, he could have easily kept the silence like I usually do in such lift journeys. 

But he asked me 3 times in that short span of time whether I’m really working here. I mean, 3 times. And each time, I’m like yeah I do, I really do. Funny thing is, he’s going to be one of the GOHs for an event that I’m in charge of this coming weekend šŸŒš. I brought that up and he’s like yeah yeah I saw that on my calendar. I think he was a bit embarrassed after that haha. 

Am I really that young-looking šŸ˜­ I mean it was Casual Friday so I was just wearing a dress and my leggings and my backpack so I guess I didn’t really look professional but stillllll. 

I didn’t expect this to be one of the woes of being a working adult but look where we are now. 

#recommendationwednesday Come Back Home – BTS

New BTS song means it’s an automatic recommendation lol. But I really love this one!! It’s a remake of Seo Taiji’s song of the same name but I’m pretty sure the rap parts are new and from BTS themselves. It sounds a bit more like their older sound and the lyrics bring to mindĀ Nevermind orĀ TomorrowĀ (still my ultimate favourite songs by them) aka working hard for a brighter tomorrow. Still bitter that Jin’s lines are so limited in this song but boiiiii he nailed that falsetto in the beginning! They could have added another verse of it somewhere in the middle of the song but oh well. My boy has improved his singing so much *wipes away proud tears*

Bonus video: Youtubers reacting to BTS (yay to the fandom growing bigger!)

Scratches.

Almost my whole family has been getting mysterious scratches on their bodies. My mother has it the worst with two long and somewhat deep scratches on her forearm. My sister has it on her thigh. I have a mysterious one on my knee.

We all don’t know how they got there.

Not sure if it’s something supernatural (it has happened before), but I’m honestly a bit freaked out.

Please, please go away, beings. We don’t want anything to do with you.

#recommendationwednesday Terrace House (and Hansan lol).

So this week I’m recommending one of my guilty pleasure shows to watch on Netflix: Terrace House. Actually, I don’t get the term ‘guilty pleasure’. What’s the difference between guilty pleasure shows and just other shows since both categories are for shows I like?

Anyway, Terrace House is a Japanese reality show where they get 6 people – 3 boys, 3 girls – to share one house and there’s no script whatsoever. I mean, that’s what they claim. I’ve gone on Reddit to see if it’s really not scripted but the consensus is that there are specific storylines the producers are going for (inevitable since ratings are what every show is aiming for) but it’s less scripted in the sense that there are no specific lines the cast has to say. I think what’s most interesting is that they have a panel of mostly comedians to react along to the show and sometimes their comments really livened up the show.

Here’s the trailer of the season that I’m currently watching – Boys and Girls in the City:

Ah the simpler times of Minori and Mizuki. Also Uchi and Minori were so cute together huhu.

But my favourite cast member so far (and I suspect till the end of time) is Yuto Handa aka Hansan. HE IS THE EPITOME OF COOL AND MATURE. He’s slightly older than the average cast member but that is not a disadvantage at all; instead it’s a huge bonus. He dispenses advice to the younger members as and when they need it (they often come to him) and he gives it to them and corrects them of their ways but in a manner that does not patronise them at all. Plus he’s so considerate of others and he can read the mood in the room pretty quickly . I tried to find a Youtube clip of him in action but alas no such clips found. Just trust me and watch it. Even the panelists call him Mr Perfect. Gah, I’m gushing over him now aren’t I. HE’S JUST TOO COOL AND I WANT TO MARRY HIM.

 

Reading invigorated.

I’ve been on a reading high lately. I find myself looking forward to reading on the crowded train and just spending those 45 minutes escaping from life for a bit (I even did a reading personality test and yep I’m an Escapist hahaha). Right now, I’m readingĀ Death of a Perm Sec (the language is a bit meh but the plot is engaging enough especially with the ongoing Lee Family Feud to contrast it with) andĀ Blonote (this is a collection of quotes by Epik High’s Tablo and I’m reading it in small doses so that I can really savour it all).

This is very much surprising cos for the longest time I was in a reading slump – which explains why I am currently 11 books behind my Goodreads Reading Challenge huhu. I’m planning to read a couple of mangas to make it up. Speaking of, I bought 3 mangas and a book the other day on BookDepo as well! They were having their under $10 sale which is too much of a steal for me to pass up on. Looking forward to reading those as well.

And this is all thanks to my colleague at work: K. K can read 6 books a week when she’s in the mood and get this – she’s a mom of 3 too. How does she do it with 3 little boys and a husband around her I have no idea #futuregoals. K is also a kdrama fan so you can imagine what kind of conversations we have during lunchtime and those little pockets of time throughout the work day. But I do enjoy recommending to her books or talking to her about the latest adventures in a book we’re reading together.

My neighbourhood library recently reopened too and the space isĀ gorgeous – very white and minimalist which I love. My only concern is that there’s no more computer terminals where people can just browse the internet? The ones connected to the library catalogue are still there though but that’s not the same. I need to take another look to confirm. There were loads of people checking the new spaces out the opening day and even though I don’t like crowds, especially in a library which is sacred ground to me, I was heartened to see everyone in the reading spirit.

Maybe the National Reading Movement is pretty effective.

#recommendationwednesday Palette & Sabor a Mi

Recommending two songs today cos I just discovered them and they’re absoluteĀ GEMS.

Discovered this when I was listening to Spotify in the office (as I always do)! I didn’t know the lyrics at the time but now I do and omg I relate to it so much. I’ve read in articles that your 20s are the most unsettling parts of your life cos you’re just truly figuring yourself out – who you are outside of school, first jobs, first everything. I have a feeling I’ll keep this on repeat for a while~

How could I call an EXO fan and not heard of this cover before? Granted I’m not a stan like I’m a stan of BTS but still. This cover is lovely and I think it sounds pretty good accent-wise? Like they rolled their ‘r’s in all the right places. And I could finally see some of the appeal of DO in this video. He looks really good and charming in that suit (Chen is still my bias and it’s a shame that he isn’t in this unit performance cos he would absolutely kill it with his vocals). And I still maintain to this day that Chanyeol is better off a singer than a rapper. His voice is so raspy, it’s wonderful (see: cover of One More Time, One More Chance from the 5 Centimeters Per Second OST).

Hope these bops would accompany you on the coming week! šŸ™‚

Distant.

The other day, my ex-best friend (I think it’s safe to call her this now, given the circumstances), texted in the group chat to list three good things about her, three bad things, and three words to describe our relationship. And so me being my honest self replied with this (in a private conversation with her cos I don’t want to open her aib in front of everyone else):

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Idk I felt that it was fairly accurate and even somewhat softened already (especially regarding the tactless part – I actually didn’t want to put the ‘sometimes’ bit). This was 2 days ago and I have been met….with complete silence on her end. Even though she has replied on the group chat regarding other topics we were all talking about. What was the point of her asking then if she just ignores my message?

The thing is she has also been posting these weird sub-tweets on her Twitter account feeling wronged and how someone is being hypocritical. She only has 13 followers. Now, put yourself in my shoes and what is your natural conclusion? You definitely will feel that all these tweets are targeting you right? It’s not a case ofĀ siapa makan cili rasalah pedasnya. It’s a logical conclusion.

Now, I don’t get why she wants to do this roundabout way of talking about it. We are nearly 24 and this shit is getting tiring. I guess I’m also contributing to the problem with writing this post here instead of just texting her back asking what’s wrong but I just needed an outlet to vent tonight. This is not just a one-off occurrance. Now that I look back, there’s been numerous times during our friendship where I’m uncertain where I stand and even feeling like I’m walking on eggshells when I deal with her. I feel like I’ve always been the one giving and putting more effort in the friendship than she’s ever been.

I’m blessed now to be surrounded by good friends and we mutually support each other. On hindsight, I think my friendship with this friend was a toxic one. Based on her tweets and self-declaration, she has bouts of depression but still the lashing out and cold treatment is taking a toll on me.

Should I just be selfish and cut all ties with her? My rational self says yes since it’s causing me so much unnecessary stress and she isn’t even aware of it. But a part of myself that wants to be a caring friend says I should just stick it out as being a friend means being there for the good and the bad parts.

What should I do? Any advice would be good, at this point.

Suddenly I’m going to all the concerts lol.

YAY

Guess who’s going for Harry Styles next year! I had to give his November concert a miss cos it was too near my Korea trip date and I would have no money left to spend on a concert ticket lol. That’s why I was so happy when he announced a 2018 date and Singapore is listed as one of the stops! He must have really liked it here in 2015 during the OTRA 1D tour. I have to say, SportsHub has really improved their online ticketing system since the last time I used them (see: 2015 OTRA). The purchasing was so smooth, like SISTIC’s, I couldn’t believe it. It could be due to the low demand since this is only for 1 1D member but I don’t really think so cos when I just logged into the system at 10am, 2 blocks were already unavailable. Plus, this is Harry Styles, arguably the frontman of 1D. I really think they’ve stepped up their system. Thank God.

With this purchase, I already have 3 concerts lined up for me. 2 this year (Music Bank, Bastille), 1 next year. Plus there’s semi-legit rumours that Bangtan might come for a full concert in December (which omg I will not be able to deal. I already can’t wrap my mind around the fact that I’m seeing them for the first time at Music Bank in a little less than 2 months). I AM SO HAPPY. People might think that concerts are just a waste of money since they only last about 2.5 hours at most, but I don’t really care. They make me feel alive and there’s nothing like feeling the bass thrum through your whole body and seeing this pulsating mass of people moving along to the same beat.

It’s one of the closest things to magic for me.

La La Land. #projectmovie

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I just finished watching La La Land so disclaimer: this post might not be entirely coherent. I left the movie FEELING SO MUCH LOVE. AND TEARS. But mostly love.

The whole world probably knows the plot by now (cos I’m late to the hype train – but omg the hype is worth it) so I won’t get into that but I just have so much feelings over this movie. Right from the get go, I knew I would love it. I was a goner by the first song on that expressway. There’s a reason I loved Glee. I love musicals – it’s such a shame I don’t know more. Halfway through the movie, I already knew I’ll keep it (I tend to delete movies off my laptop once I’m done watching) because I’ll rewatch it numerous times.

Right now, everything about this movie was perfect. The cast was brilliant (Ryan Gosling I want your talent with the piano), the cinematography was really nice (at first I thought this movie wasn’t set in present time cos the colouring makes it seem vintage), IĀ loved the music (the non-jazzy music seems straight out of a 1950s Disney classic movie and it reminded me so much of Sleeping Beauty – one of my ultimate favourites growing up), and the set design need not be said. Stunning.

I couldn’t keep track the number of times I cried. The beautiful dance scene in the observatory where they floated and it looked so damn magical. That scene when he was persuading her to go for that big audition after calling it quits and going back to her hometown. The scene in the park where she asked where they were and deciding to take a break. 5 years later, when she was married to another person and already having a child. THAT ENDING IN SEB’S. He practically declared his love for her through that song, their song,Ā still, after all these years, in front of everyone including the husband and no one knew except both of them. The montage of what could have been. That last shot of him smiling at her, and her smiling back. No hard feelings. Life is unexpected. They still love each other and it’s so pure I couldn’t help my tears.

And at its essence, I think that’s really what I love about this movie the most. It’s about life and its ups and downs. There were times when Seb was more successful than Mia, other times when it was the other way round. But they were still there for each other, sometimes it was harder to be there but they still go back to each other in the end. Until that end. GAH. It’s making me want to write fanfiction and rewrite the ending but I can’t do that. I loved the ending, no matter how bittersweet it was.

I’ll leave you with this gem of a song. The first thing that struck me when I first heard it wasĀ this song sounds so sad. I guess I should have taken that as a clue and braced myself.