#recommendationwednesday Terrace House (and Hansan lol).

So this week I’m recommending one of my guilty pleasure shows to watch on Netflix: Terrace House. Actually, I don’t get the term ‘guilty pleasure’. What’s the difference between guilty pleasure shows and just other shows since both categories are for shows I like?

Anyway, Terrace House is a Japanese reality show where they get 6 people – 3 boys, 3 girls – to share one house and there’s no script whatsoever. I mean, that’s what they claim. I’ve gone on Reddit to see if it’s really not scripted but the consensus is that there are specific storylines the producers are going for (inevitable since ratings are what every show is aiming for) but it’s less scripted in the sense that there are no specific lines the cast has to say. I think what’s most interesting is that they have a panel of mostly comedians to react along to the show and sometimes their comments really livened up the show.

Here’s the trailer of the season that I’m currently watching – Boys and Girls in the City:

Ah the simpler times of Minori and Mizuki. Also Uchi and Minori were so cute together huhu.

But my favourite cast member so far (and I suspect till the end of time) is Yuto Handa aka Hansan. HE IS THE EPITOME OF COOL AND MATURE. He’s slightly older than the average cast member but that is not a disadvantage at all; instead it’s a huge bonus. He dispenses advice to the younger members as and when they need it (they often come to him) and he gives it to them and corrects them of their ways but in a manner that does not patronise them at all. Plus he’s so considerate of others and he can read the mood in the room pretty quickly . I tried to find a Youtube clip of him in action but alas no such clips found. Just trust me and watch it. Even the panelists call him Mr Perfect. Gah, I’m gushing over him now aren’t I. HE’S JUST TOO COOL AND I WANT TO MARRY HIM.

 

Reading invigorated.

I’ve been on a reading high lately. I find myself looking forward to reading on the crowded train and just spending those 45 minutes escaping from life for a bit (I even did a reading personality test and yep I’m an Escapist hahaha). Right now, I’m reading Death of a Perm Sec (the language is a bit meh but the plot is engaging enough especially with the ongoing Lee Family Feud to contrast it with) and Blonote (this is a collection of quotes by Epik High’s Tablo and I’m reading it in small doses so that I can really savour it all).

This is very much surprising cos for the longest time I was in a reading slump – which explains why I am currently 11 books behind my Goodreads Reading Challenge huhu. I’m planning to read a couple of mangas to make it up. Speaking of, I bought 3 mangas and a book the other day on BookDepo as well! They were having their under $10 sale which is too much of a steal for me to pass up on. Looking forward to reading those as well.

And this is all thanks to my colleague at work: K. K can read 6 books a week when she’s in the mood and get this – she’s a mom of 3 too. How does she do it with 3 little boys and a husband around her I have no idea #futuregoals. K is also a kdrama fan so you can imagine what kind of conversations we have during lunchtime and those little pockets of time throughout the work day. But I do enjoy recommending to her books or talking to her about the latest adventures in a book we’re reading together.

My neighbourhood library recently reopened too and the space is gorgeous – very white and minimalist which I love. My only concern is that there’s no more computer terminals where people can just browse the internet? The ones connected to the library catalogue are still there though but that’s not the same. I need to take another look to confirm. There were loads of people checking the new spaces out the opening day and even though I don’t like crowds, especially in a library which is sacred ground to me, I was heartened to see everyone in the reading spirit.

Maybe the National Reading Movement is pretty effective.

#recommendationwednesday Palette & Sabor a Mi

Recommending two songs today cos I just discovered them and they’re absolute GEMS.

Discovered this when I was listening to Spotify in the office (as I always do)! I didn’t know the lyrics at the time but now I do and omg I relate to it so much. I’ve read in articles that your 20s are the most unsettling parts of your life cos you’re just truly figuring yourself out – who you are outside of school, first jobs, first everything. I have a feeling I’ll keep this on repeat for a while~

How could I call an EXO fan and not heard of this cover before? Granted I’m not a stan like I’m a stan of BTS but still. This cover is lovely and I think it sounds pretty good accent-wise? Like they rolled their ‘r’s in all the right places. And I could finally see some of the appeal of DO in this video. He looks really good and charming in that suit (Chen is still my bias and it’s a shame that he isn’t in this unit performance cos he would absolutely kill it with his vocals). And I still maintain to this day that Chanyeol is better off a singer than a rapper. His voice is so raspy, it’s wonderful (see: cover of One More Time, One More Chance from the 5 Centimeters Per Second OST).

Hope these bops would accompany you on the coming week! 🙂

Distant.

The other day, my ex-best friend (I think it’s safe to call her this now, given the circumstances), texted in the group chat to list three good things about her, three bad things, and three words to describe our relationship. And so me being my honest self replied with this (in a private conversation with her cos I don’t want to open her aib in front of everyone else):

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Idk I felt that it was fairly accurate and even somewhat softened already (especially regarding the tactless part – I actually didn’t want to put the ‘sometimes’ bit). This was 2 days ago and I have been met….with complete silence on her end. Even though she has replied on the group chat regarding other topics we were all talking about. What was the point of her asking then if she just ignores my message?

The thing is she has also been posting these weird sub-tweets on her Twitter account feeling wronged and how someone is being hypocritical. She only has 13 followers. Now, put yourself in my shoes and what is your natural conclusion? You definitely will feel that all these tweets are targeting you right? It’s not a case of siapa makan cili rasalah pedasnya. It’s a logical conclusion.

Now, I don’t get why she wants to do this roundabout way of talking about it. We are nearly 24 and this shit is getting tiring. I guess I’m also contributing to the problem with writing this post here instead of just texting her back asking what’s wrong but I just needed an outlet to vent tonight. This is not just a one-off occurrance. Now that I look back, there’s been numerous times during our friendship where I’m uncertain where I stand and even feeling like I’m walking on eggshells when I deal with her. I feel like I’ve always been the one giving and putting more effort in the friendship than she’s ever been.

I’m blessed now to be surrounded by good friends and we mutually support each other. On hindsight, I think my friendship with this friend was a toxic one. Based on her tweets and self-declaration, she has bouts of depression but still the lashing out and cold treatment is taking a toll on me.

Should I just be selfish and cut all ties with her? My rational self says yes since it’s causing me so much unnecessary stress and she isn’t even aware of it. But a part of myself that wants to be a caring friend says I should just stick it out as being a friend means being there for the good and the bad parts.

What should I do? Any advice would be good, at this point.

Suddenly I’m going to all the concerts lol.

YAY

Guess who’s going for Harry Styles next year! I had to give his November concert a miss cos it was too near my Korea trip date and I would have no money left to spend on a concert ticket lol. That’s why I was so happy when he announced a 2018 date and Singapore is listed as one of the stops! He must have really liked it here in 2015 during the OTRA 1D tour. I have to say, SportsHub has really improved their online ticketing system since the last time I used them (see: 2015 OTRA). The purchasing was so smooth, like SISTIC’s, I couldn’t believe it. It could be due to the low demand since this is only for 1 1D member but I don’t really think so cos when I just logged into the system at 10am, 2 blocks were already unavailable. Plus, this is Harry Styles, arguably the frontman of 1D. I really think they’ve stepped up their system. Thank God.

With this purchase, I already have 3 concerts lined up for me. 2 this year (Music Bank, Bastille), 1 next year. Plus there’s semi-legit rumours that Bangtan might come for a full concert in December (which omg I will not be able to deal. I already can’t wrap my mind around the fact that I’m seeing them for the first time at Music Bank in a little less than 2 months). I AM SO HAPPY. People might think that concerts are just a waste of money since they only last about 2.5 hours at most, but I don’t really care. They make me feel alive and there’s nothing like feeling the bass thrum through your whole body and seeing this pulsating mass of people moving along to the same beat.

It’s one of the closest things to magic for me.

La La Land. #projectmovie

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I just finished watching La La Land so disclaimer: this post might not be entirely coherent. I left the movie FEELING SO MUCH LOVE. AND TEARS. But mostly love.

The whole world probably knows the plot by now (cos I’m late to the hype train – but omg the hype is worth it) so I won’t get into that but I just have so much feelings over this movie. Right from the get go, I knew I would love it. I was a goner by the first song on that expressway. There’s a reason I loved Glee. I love musicals – it’s such a shame I don’t know more. Halfway through the movie, I already knew I’ll keep it (I tend to delete movies off my laptop once I’m done watching) because I’ll rewatch it numerous times.

Right now, everything about this movie was perfect. The cast was brilliant (Ryan Gosling I want your talent with the piano), the cinematography was really nice (at first I thought this movie wasn’t set in present time cos the colouring makes it seem vintage), I loved the music (the non-jazzy music seems straight out of a 1950s Disney classic movie and it reminded me so much of Sleeping Beauty – one of my ultimate favourites growing up), and the set design need not be said. Stunning.

I couldn’t keep track the number of times I cried. The beautiful dance scene in the observatory where they floated and it looked so damn magical. That scene when he was persuading her to go for that big audition after calling it quits and going back to her hometown. The scene in the park where she asked where they were and deciding to take a break. 5 years later, when she was married to another person and already having a child. THAT ENDING IN SEB’S. He practically declared his love for her through that song, their song, still, after all these years, in front of everyone including the husband and no one knew except both of them. The montage of what could have been. That last shot of him smiling at her, and her smiling back. No hard feelings. Life is unexpected. They still love each other and it’s so pure I couldn’t help my tears.

And at its essence, I think that’s really what I love about this movie the most. It’s about life and its ups and downs. There were times when Seb was more successful than Mia, other times when it was the other way round. But they were still there for each other, sometimes it was harder to be there but they still go back to each other in the end. Until that end. GAH. It’s making me want to write fanfiction and rewrite the ending but I can’t do that. I loved the ending, no matter how bittersweet it was.

I’ll leave you with this gem of a song. The first thing that struck me when I first heard it was this song sounds so sad. I guess I should have taken that as a clue and braced myself.

How To Deal with People (with different opinions than me).

Well, this weekend has certainly been illuminating, to say the least. I was down for an LP yesterday at Woodlands Bazaar (the heat and humidity almost killed me. I gulped 3 cups of water when it was iftar) seeking people’s feedback on the EP.

One of the questions was about having a woman candidate. I thought Singapore has progressed a lot on this front, and while the majority of people I approached were, it was startling to find some people still having very conservative views. One of them even justified that only males are capable to “lead” the country because Singapore has the lion as an icon. And that lions are males only. I mean – wow. I didn’t know how to respond to that but I just had to “plasticly” smile and nod like I agree with his view. I felt a bit of myself dying away cries. I mean this isn’t even for the PM position which is the real leader of the country. I almost wanted to shake the guy even though he’s a head taller than me.

Fast-forward to today where I watched Hidden Figures. This is part of my new weekly project – to watch at least a movie per weekend. Last week, I started with Me Before You (which made me cry my eyes out). Anyway, Hidden Figures was really good. It never really dawned on me how bad the segregation of blacks and whites were till I’ve watched the movie. I mean having separate bathrooms and coffee pots?? With the hindsight that we have now, it does look very, very ridiculous. I wonder what would look ridiculous 10 or 20 years down the road.

Feeling good.

Hello! I’ve taken another unannounced hiatus it seems. I hate to be one of those kinds of people that said that work has been so busy that they haven’t been able to do anything much – but it seems like I have. I try not to think that it’s a bad thing though. At least not for now, where I’m still new to the job and everyone has been really kind in showing me the ropes and letting me ask all the stupid questions (just yesterday, I asked E how to insert an image into an email; instead of it appearing as an attached document).

But Life in general, has been good! Since I’ve last written I’ve gone:

  • Paintballing with the colleagues for team cohesion – SO MUCH FUN. It was pretty funny when there were still quite a lot of paintballs left and the instructor asked who still wants to play another round and all the young ones, including me, raised their hands lol. I still have a few bruises all over my body though.
  • Family BBQ – A much more successful BBQ this time round cos of the sunny weather and cool night winds.
  • Bought BASTILLE tickets – This will be my second time seeing them and I’m excited! It’s at Star Vista and allocated seating which I don’t know if it’s a good idea for a rock concert? We’ll see.
  • Bought Seoul tickets! – My big trip to Korea is finally happening yaaaaaaas. October/November can’t come soon enough.
  • Held two tea sessions between uni students and SH (I’m actually not sure if I’m supposed to say names hence the initials) – sometimes the questions that uni students bring up are so idealistic and removed from the real world. I hope I wasn’t like that. I also hope I haven’t gone jaded.
  • Finished a book – Hitchhiker’s Guide to the Galaxy. I think this is the first time in months I managed to complete a book. I’ve been in the worst reading slump. Hopefully I’m out of it now.
  • Decided to go to MuBank SG AND #WINGSTOUR if BTS decides to hold a full concert here – my wallet is already crying. But I will cry even more once I see Seokjin IRL.

I hope you guys had a good Vesak Day! I appreciate the PH cos that means one less day of Lineup Duty for me (I was so anxious on Monday but as usual it was just my brain overthinking and it actually turned out fine. Though I still can’t get a good sense of P – which is throwing me off cos I usually can read people quite well. Gah.) I managed to catch a movie which feels so good cos it has been so long!! I still want to solo watch a movie in a cinema soon and relive my uni days.

My brain is a mush right now.

I have about 2 hours of work left today but I can’t. I have a report outstanding (only a few paragraphs on my end), but I can’t. My brain is ded.

Idk why this week feels very long, especially when you consider the number of out-of-office events lined up for the week. We already had a site recce, a promotional lunch, and now an upcoming paintball / hi-tea session on Friday that basically renders that day useless, work-wise. Also we are having hi-tea at Carousell in Orchard right after paintball. Yep, GG haha.

The little things.

Yesterday, while on the packed MRT on the way to work, I managed to glimpse a little something that made my day.

Just outside, on the platform station, there was this MRT officer who was helping a blind middle-aged guy to wait for the next train.

This wasn’t what struck me to write this post.

It was the utter joy on their faces. The officer looked so happy just to help this guy out early in the morning, and having a nice conversation with him. It’s probably part of his responsibilities to do so but that joy, it was so pure, I couldn’t not write about it. The blind man was also happy that someone was willing to help him out during the peak hour crowd.

Idk, it’s moments like this that makes me realise that Singapore is not as ruthless a city as the majority believes. There’s still human decency in everyone.

Happy Thursday, everyone! Hope it goes well 🙂